“Why isn’t this working?” “Why do we do it this way?” “Why can’t I change?” ‘Why’ questions almost always focus on the problem. They cause us to ruminate and go deeper into whatever is troubling or vexing. ‘Why’ can trap us in a downward spiral of “why can’t I figure …

Label yourself! Sticks and stone may break my bones, but names will never hurt me. Remember that schoolyard saying? The truth is that naming possesses extraordinary power — not only to hurt, but also to heal, enhance, and benefit. I recall how empowering it was when I finally accepted the …